Three Friends

After I separated from my wife, I found myself alone and lonely and yearning for friends. Joining a religious anti-gay group that was supposed to deliver me from a gay life style, I became close friends with three airline flight attendants who also attended the Exodus group: Scott, Matthew, and Dean. Each worked for a different airline, and seldom were the three in town at the same time. Nevertheless, the friendships became important to my feelings of self-worth. Consistent with the rules of the group, my relationship with these guys was purely platonic, but I thrived on their attention and the fellowship they provided. They were my heroes. Little by little, I learned that my heroes were human and had shortcomings, just like me. When I felt them becoming less dependent on me, I wanted more than anything to change their attitudes. Pondering the situation, I fortunately came to realize that I was praying for something I didn’t really want, and I wrote this poem:


I have three friends–Scott, Matt, and Dean;
Their friendship means the world to me.
I sometimes want to change my friends,
But I can only change me.

Scott is the friend who taught me how
A friendship really should be;
Now when Scott isn’t all I need,
I can’t change Scott–God, change me.

Matt’s prayer life I emulate;
He taught me God is in me;
But Matt said, “I can let you down.”
God, don’t change Matt–just change me.

Dean’s friendship has been one of time;
In games he can defeat me;
Don’t take away Dean’s winning edge;
Give me new goals–Lord, change me.

Life is a challenge, each new day
Demands some alteration;
Lord, bless my friends–let me begin
A friendship restoration.


About bobosbest

I am an 80-year-old retired English teacher whose writing goals are fulfilled by publishing these blogs. I have a wonderful married partner, Dimitris Tsitsiras, who is from Greece. Life is good and still an adventure.
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One Response to Three Friends

  1. Tom says:

    All I can say is: wow!

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